We have the most amazing EFT practitioner at the salon. Being a mum herself, Melanie Bundock from TherapHealing has used these techniques over and over on her children, which shows how much she believes in this simple but powerful therapy.
Here is her article on using EFT to help children and teens with exams, which shows how versatile it is as a therapy – it could be used for anything that you are nervous or anxious of.
I recently wrote a blog post about Emotional Freedom Technique or Tapping as it is also known. In this post I talked about the effectiveness of this amazing therapy can have on children of all ages for issues such as childhood fears and worries, boosting performance before a sports game and even physical symptoms. I have had a few people ask me if EFT can help with exam stress, and the answer is absolutely yes!
Rewind 20 or so years ago, I can honestly say that this was perhaps the most stressful time in my life, my university place, my future career and the rest of my life depended on these results (or so I thought at the time). I found revision boring, facts didn’t want to stay in my head (so I thought – again!) but my overriding thoughts were of fear and worry. This stress manifested itself as severe eczema on my face and chest, which to me looked awful and made me feel even worse and the most awful insomnia. I wish I had known about EFT then – how different things would have been.
EFT works by talking and tapping on acupressure points on the face and body whilst repeating phrases, a bit like acupuncture but without the needles. As we talk and tap, we focus on the overriding emotion, in my case it would have been fear and worry. So how would EFT have helped my 18 year old self? I would have addressed my fears of not getting the university place I wanted, I would also have addressed my fear of failure and ruining my life (oh how I wish I could go back and tell that 18 year old she had NOTHING to worry about), and I would have addressed the insomnia.
After a few rounds of clearing the overriding negative feeling, I would then focus on positive phrases (all the while tapping on the acupressure points). This reinforces self belief, confidence and an attitude conducive to a positive mindset upon entering that exam room.
I wish I could say that EFT can replace revision and studying – wouldn’t that be great? However EFT can take away any negative thoughts, feelings and worries that surround this highly stressful time. Whist the process of EFT itself is rather strange, there are some discreet tapping points that are easily accessible that you can use just before the exam, or even during the exam itself. Once the basics are learnt, the process can be used at home as often as needed.
So that’s the kids sorted out -what about the parents? EFT is fabulous for dealing with the day to day stresses of parenting. Being a mum myself, I know full well the emotions that are tied to raising our children, we delight in their joy, we feel their pain as if they were our own, and as for their emotional pain – well that is probably the worst of all. EFT has helped me enormously in my daily life of being a mum, those times they stress me out and frustrate me, yes you guessed it, I tap on it, often!
I hope that by the time my children are of exam age, they will be happily tapping away their fears and worries, and as for me, I will relax in the positive belief that whatever the outcome of the exam – they will be entering adulthood with a lifetime of happiness and success ahead of them.
Update: Melanie no longer works from the salon, but we still adore and recommend her. Please do ask if you can’t get in touch with her via her website.